My husband is convicted of Statutory Rape.  He had just turned 18, and was pursued by his cousin who was around 15.  He put her off for months, and eventually agreed to have a sexual relationship with her.  It lasted 3 months before he broke it off with her because of her age.  She became vindictive, and turned him in. I realize she is under the Oregon's legal age of consent, so technically it was rape, but the sex they had was consensual. 

I met him a year after he was arrested and was with him when he was sentenced to sex offender therapy, 5 years probation, forced to quit his full time job, then ordered to pay $35 a week for sex offender therapy, $35 a month for supervision fees, and $50 a month for victim counseling.  Then they put his name, address and picture in the paper and all over the tv, and expected him to be able to get a job to pay for all this?  

We live in XX County in Oregon, and maintenance polygraphs are required as a part of sex offender treatment. He has never passed a polygraph, but has always told the truth on them. 

In the past year that he's been on probation, he was put in jail for failing polygraphs, marrying me without his probation officer's permission, getting a job (and then waiting to tell his probation officer until after he got his first pay stub), and once because his mother was at a horse show and had an emergency.  He showed up at the horse show to assist his mother, then left.  He didn't know at the time, but his victim was there at the horse show and saw him. 

They have put many rules and things on him that I'm wondering about.  He's not allowed to attend church, he's not allowed to go to stores such as Wal-Mart or Fred Meyer without permission 2 weeks in advance.  He's not allowed outside his home from 9pm to 5am.  He's not allowed to have any contact with me anymore...his probation officer put a no-contact order on me months ago.  There are a few others...if you are interested I can email you scanned copies of the paperwork that he was told he either had to sign ..saying he agreed to it, or go back to jail. 

He failed a polygraph and they revoked his probation..but sentenced him to 6 months at Talent's Work Center..he only ended up being in for 3 months, and when he got out was sentenced to 5 years parole. 

We had hired a lawyer, and paid out over $1,000..only to find out that the lawyer had a conflict of interests.  She also works on the board of trustees for the probation and sex offender therapy department.  I don't feel that she adequately represented my husband.  Its hard to find a lawyer in this area who is willing to take on a case like this.  Most after hearing he is a sex offender tell me they can't take the case.  I need help, but I don't know where to turn. 

Recently my husband has gotten a full time job.  He works 6 days a week usually from 7am to around 6pm.  He has had no contact with minors, has not used the internet..(which he was also told he was not allowed to do), he has not drank alcohol, or used drugs..he's stayed within his curfew bounds.   But they still continue to tell him he's not allowed to see me.  I admit..I still see him. Its the only rule of treatment and parole that he continues breaking. I just don't think its right.  Is there anything that can be done? He attends his sex offender therapy is required to take polygraphs, where they ask him if he's seen me.  (And of course he has), when it comes out in the sex offender therapy, he's thrown out of treatment, which is a violation of his parole, and he ends up back in jail.  They are throwing him in jail for seeing his wife... is that allowed??  He's been in jail around 9 days now, and still hasn't been able to see the parole board.  He has no idea how long he'll be in jail this time. 

I also recently found out that his cousin has done this to another guy.  She was "dating" him and slept with him a few times.  When he decided to break up with her, she turned him in and claimed rape.  Is there any way to get people to realize she's the predator...and not my husband?

Is there anything I can do at this point besides waiting?  His boss called and told me he would lose his job if he wasn't back in a week.  He can't afford to lose the job. 

I'm sorry if it seems I'm unloading, I just really don't know where to turn.

- A